As we bring a very weird, disturbing and sometimes heart breaking year to an end, it can be very easy to want to get to New Years eve and say “good riddens” and throw the confetti, pop the champagne and get the heck out of the year from H E Double hockey sticks.
What I want for you this New Years instead of just moving into the next year, or skipping your resolutions because 2020 happened and screwed everyone, is to focus on that big, beautiful and smart MIND you have. Work on building a stronger mindset that will help you overcome obstacles better than any physical training you could pay for.
What I want for you is to forget the words CAN’T, and FAILURE. I want you to pretend that you never even learned those words to begin with. They are words that only destroy your dreams, not help you reach them.
If you want to start building your dream life, there is no FAILURES. Only events that help you shape and decide where to go next.
If you want to start changing what happens in your life to something better, there is no CAN’T. Only choices on what you deem a priority.
These two simples words can destroy a dream faster than any other element that is physical or intellectual.. Our mind is a very powerful tool and if used correctly, can lead to greatness and a life we have wanted for ourselves for so long. But if it is used for the opposite, then that dream life we imagined and hoped for will always be a distant view.
If I could go back and give my younger self one pearl of wisdom, it would be the advice above. The only reason I know that your mind is a powerful tool is because I have used it for good in my life, and also very bad. There are times when I am so in tuned with my mindset and my dreams, that I feel it all falls into place easily. Then there are times when I get so down with negativity that I seem to attract all bad things to me. It has been a cycle for so many years.
So my wish for you all, is that you work on changing that mindset. It is not easy. It is probably one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. It’s a daily struggle and a daily battle to keep your mind in the correct place to reach your dream life. It is WORTH EVERY SECOND of effort to accomplish this. Working on your mindset, does not mean that you won't have any bad things to work thru. That part of your life won't change. We can't control the things that happen to us or around us. But having your mindset strong, will help you deal with the crap that life can throw at you(hello 2020!)
Now there are certain techniques that one can use overcome this struggle in our minds. I am here to tell you my favorites and what has worked for me the past 10 years of doing this.
This is a short but concise saying that you use EVERYDAY and multiple times a day to help get your mind in the correct space. Many times this is written like you are already doing it. For example, if you want to start getting in shape for the new year, possibly your mantra is.
“I am choosing to eat healthy items and move my body everyday because I am worth feeling good about myself.”
“I am being more healthy because I will live my best life NOW”.
If you have a mantra that helps retrain your mind when you go down the rabbit hole of despair, over time your mind adjusts to negativity that pops up quicker. Starting your day off with a 5-10 min alone time that you can write your mantra or say it over and over again before you get involved with your day will help you grow tremendously.
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My next favorite technique takes our daily mantras or inspirational quotes and puts them front and center where you are every day. I love quotes because they help my mind rethink my situation and get it back to where it needs to be. Print your quotes or mantras out and tape them to the places you find yourself reverting back to the negative state. Have them on your phone wall paper or sleep screen. Tape them to your bathroom mirror or your refrigerator. You can have them hanging at your desk. The goal is to put these wherever you find yourself sliding back into the negative habits.
My wish for you is to know you are worth every dream that you want and you are worthy to live the life of your dreams. You are put here for a reason and you are worthy to live that out. You need to believe it and feel it everyday.
I hope your new year is spectacular and this blog post helps you prep for 2021 and living your best life.